Father Knows Best #11: The Dignity of Saying ‘No’

Dear Daughter,

You are not called to say “yes” to everything.

Every request, every demand, every expectation is not your assignment.

“Every time you say yes to something outside of God’s will, you say no to something He’s called you to.”

I’ve seen people wear themselves out trying to please everyone. They end up tired, resentful, and far from the purpose God placed in them. They also find themselves regretting the support they gave because they realized they gave too much of themselves. You have to remember that saying "no" also means that you will not accept anyone attitude and their shortfalls just because they want you to say "yes".

Daughter, your “yes” is precious — and it should be reserved for the things that align with your calling and your values.

Saying “no” with grace is not rejection, it’s redirection. A redirection to what God has called you to do and be. Your "no" has great value. Your "no" has purpose. Your "no" is filled with grace.

And when you say it with love and conviction, you not only guard your heart — you honor God. What does that mean? Honoring God isn't just about what you do, it is about what you refuse to do. You are refusing something that goes against God's plan for your life. You are refusing temptations, what is popular- you are honoring God by choosing to be obedient over self-desire, overcommitments, people-pleasing and pride or ego or the need to control. You are honoring God and respecting yourself, so say - "no" with confidence.

📖 Scriptural Anchor

“Let your ‘Yes’ be yes, and your ‘No,’ no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.”

— James 5:12 (NKJV

Lord,

Give my daughter the wisdom to know when to say “no” and the courage to say it with grace.

Protect her from overcommitting and overextending herself.

Teach her that boundaries are not barriers but blessings.

Let her “no” make room for her best “yes” — the one that follows You.

In Jesus’ name,

Amen.

🪞 Reflection Prompt: Boundaries Check

This week, look back at the last three times you said “yes” to something.

Ask yourself:

• Did this align with God’s purpose for me?

• Was I able to give it my best, or did it drain me?

If you find that your “yes” came at the expense of your peace or your priorities, ask God to give you strength for a gracious “no” next time.

✍️ From a Father’s heart to yours,

Bro. Percy

💬 Personal Insight from Me

I’ve had seasons when my “yes” was on autopilot — and I ended up overwhelmed, overworked, and under-joyed. Seriously, UNDER-JOYED. I was not happy with some of my "yes"... I can say that my father taught me that dignity is knowing your limits and respecting them. By respecting my limits, I was respecting myself.

I had to learn really fast to build strong boundaries and honoring my boundaries. We just can build strong boundaries and not honor them. That, I feel, is just a waste of time. I built them, but I had to understand my boundaries before I could honor them. When I finally understood what it meant to respect and honor my boundaries, my "no" meant something real to me. The most wonderful thing was seeing that other people respected my "no" as well.

And now I’m passing that to you: your “no” can be just as holy as your “yes.

🌿 Healing Invitation

If you’ve been saying “yes” to everything and feeling empty, I want to help you find your voice, your boundaries, and your peace.

At PossAble Solutions, we teach women how to live with confidence, purpose, and dignity — even if it means saying “no” more often.

Stand by for the companion to this blog.

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✍️ Your Sister,

Bertillia 💕

Sisters,

There will be moments in life when the most loving, wise, and faithful thing you can say is a simple, confident “No.”

Not out of spite.

Not from fear.

But because you know who you are, what God has called you to be, and where your boundaries must be.

Saying “no” is not weakness. It’s dignity. It’s stewardship. It’s strength wrapped in grace.

I know Brother Percy has some things to say about the Power of 'NO'.